When You’re Not Ready Yet

My son: “Why can’t I have a phone?”

Me: “Because you’re not ready yet.”

Son: “Why can’t I have a job like Dad?”

Me: “Because you aren’t ready yet.

Son: “Why can’t I watch the movie with you guys?”

Me: “Because you aren’t ready yet.”

Maybe you relate to these conversations. A child eager to grow up is like a race horse anticipating the gate flinging open. I remind him adulting is overrated and that most adults wish to be kids again, but he still doesn’t seem to believe me.

I realize the words “because you aren’t ready yet” aren’t the most comforting to hear. But as I look back at most of my childhood, adolescence, and beyond, I realize something: I always felt ready before I was ready. It took loving people in my life to hold me back from what I wasn’t ready for, and times I didn’t listen exposed me to regrets.

I realized recently how much more I’ve learned to embrace those words. Recently, my mentor looked over a book I’m working on and said, “It’s almost ready, but not quite yet.” then she gave me a few things to work on. Then she did that three more times because it still wasn’t ready for our end goal. I cringed a little, because I worked hard only to hear it still wasn’t ready, but it also made me thankful. I’m thankful someone cares enough to fine tune, correct, and share advice to help me grow. I’m thankful because I learned something new every single time she said it.  It shows she believes in me, she wouldn’t waste her time if she didn’t. Someone who doesn’t care tells you you’re ready before you aren’t.

How about you? How do you respond when someone tells you that you aren’t ready yet? Do you pridefully rush ahead, or do you respond with a teachable heart? Do you give up or commit to growth? Do you point blame at others or take personal responsibility?

1 Peter 5:6 tells usHumble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.”

Stay humble. Stay teachable. Be thankful for seasons of preparation and people who want to see fruit ripened in your life. And when someone says “you’re not ready yet,” strap yourself in and commit to growth. One day the gates will fling open and you’ll be off to the races.

Vegas Strong

A photo my husband took at dinner last month. This city holds a special place in our hearts. Vegas we love you.

 

My heart breaks for those affected by tragic massacre in Las Vegas. We called Las Vegas home for four years, it is the birthplace of our first daughter, the place we started in ministry and marriage. It holds a special place in our hearts. My husband and I sat by the pool at the Mandalay Bay just a month ago, visiting our old stomping grounds and reminiscing about a city with special memories.

I couldn’t stop crying watching the footage. For a moment, I got a glimpse of how terrifying that night was for so many people. In the process of wiping tears, praying for Las Vegas, and looking for ways to show support, there are a few things that bring me comfort. 2 Corinthians 1:4 tells us the comfort God gives is meant to be shared.

This isn’t an exhaustive list by any means. It’s just my personal list of a few things that bring me comfort and hope in light of the tragedy. I hope they will bring you comfort as well.

  1. If you live your life in fear, he takes one more victim.” – These words shared from a counselor to a women at the concert are words not just for her but for many like me, who may be tempted to live fearfully.

2. This video by Pastor Craig Groeschel reminds me of the heart of our Father in heaven.

3. Acts 9:31. It has become my prayer for the churches around our nation. “So the church throughout all Judea and Galilee and Samaria had peace and was being built up. And walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, it multiplied.” 

During this time where many feel uncertain, I pray for God’s church to rise up in peace and the comfort of the Holy Spirit. For those who are hopeless, searching, and in need of comfort, I pray the Church would be the arms of Jesus wrapped around the hurting. So many churches already are.

What brings you comfort during times like these?

Adoption Update

It’s been awhile since we’ve shared an adoption update, so here it goes!

We’ve received news from our agency we are on the list of approved families in the Philippines. The way our agency works, they seek to find families for children – not children for families. The child’s needs are front and center at all times – and we LOVE that. As they look at a child waiting to be adopted, they look at the child’s personality, history, and needs and ask, “which family would be the best fit for this child?” One day we will receive a call – not they picked a child for us – but they’ve picked us for a child! Once they give us all the information on the child (photos, videos, health history, etc) we have 14 days to decide if we want to move forward and adopt the child. We haven’t received that call yet, but we are trusting God’s timing in it all and excited for the future. 

Many people ask why we chose the Philippines, and it’s a decision we came to after a lot of prayer, research, and discussion with our agency. One day when we know more about our child, we plan on hosting an adoption shower (of sorts), and will explain our decision in more detail to those who have surrounded us with support and love through this process. We are adoption advocates either way; domestic, international, private, or any other means of providing a loving family to a child–the Philippines just happens to be our path right now.

We love answering questions about adoption. Many people fear the cost, but we’ve learned so much about various options we look forward to helping inform other couples who might be curious. If something in your heart tells you adoption may be in your future, reach out! We’d love to chat.

God Bless,

Mel and Brandon